The "Good" Mommy club...
Looks like I won't be invited to join this year.... damn... (opps the d word... yet another reason I won't be asked to join...sigh*)
Seems like I worried some of the "NICER" mommy's out in blogland with my Wenche " RANT"
**crickets** Sorry?
First, for the record... Wenche is a REAL name(pronounced Vinka -kindda...I guess)... I am not misspelling WENCH..
Second... y'all who "know" me, know MY blog is a place I like to blow off a little steam.... it is a bit more therapeutic for me to write things out rather than walking around the house talking to myself... (I also really like it when y'all AGREE with me & tell me I am RIGHT...) It was suggested that MY blog was perhaps NOT the best place to vent...
Ummm, OK then... - as soon as I get my ranting posts taken down I will be over to tell you how you should be writing YOUR blog . : ) allrighty then...
I didn't think my post about Wench was really THAT bad... (this version is much better than the one I originally posted..)
So just to reassure y'all (I know you have been lying awake at night ,worried that I might attack WENCH in the playground..) IT wasn't really that BIG of a deal to me... I was irritated that there are mothers who are THAT ignorant.. I haven't lost sleep over it, Dane wasn't upset or devastated... he just thought it was weird...
In REAL life... I am not one to confront people... so the suggestion that I should perhaps pull Wenche aside & tell her where she went wrong... will .never. happen...
Now having a MOMMY MIXER & leaving her out, while I invite the OTHER mothers in the street...
Bruuuwwww haaaa haaahaaa... I love it... (thanks for the idea Karen!)
I do play nice most of the time...
- so after I found out I had rubbed some of the "NICER" mommies the wrong way I started thinking... Hmmm... What kind of mommy group do I belong in?
I have lots & lots of NICE mommy friends... you know... those who have NEVER in 10 years , said a bad word in front of their child... those who are able to remember that they are the ADULTS & act in the appropriate way... those who would NEVER drink a glass of wine at playgroup... (I miss those days.. of drinking in the middle of the day ...sigh)
I TRIED to be a NICE mommy.. that lasted until Dane was about 6 months.. & then I said screw it... and went back to good ol' Tressa ...with a kid...
I am not a perfect & "nice" mommy... If I had been, think of all of the money Dane wouldn't have made by NOT teaching the entire school cuss words in 4 different languages.. Hmm
Maybe BAD is the new Good... I dunno... Although I don't fit into the "Nice" mommy role... I know I am a rocking mom... (as long as my kids love me & they turn out to be good people...(which I know they will) I have done my job.
Speaking of my job... B-day party TOMORROW... am I ready? NO.. but I will pull it off, some how, some way....
Eva is doing GREAT... (we were worried that she would be admitted to the hospital this weekend because of an infection) - I have to take her in for blood work next week but she looks like is is going to be fine...
OK folkens... (that would be Norwegian) Just wanted to say THANK YOU to all of you who love me WARTS & all--- if it weren't for y'all I doubt I would still be writing... so thanks..
Cross you fingers for me with my house full of 10 year olds tomorrow... : )
Comments
Read the post on the B-day party and I agree. Don't hurt kids feelings. Keep it small, inviting only one or two discreetly. Or invite the whole class.
It's exactly that Tressa, YOUR space. Vent, laugh, cry, bitch, cuss, celebrate - whatever you want to do here, you should do.
Since I do not have any kids, I can't belong to either group...however, the reason I continue to read your blog is because you crack me up! I see alot of me in you (meaning attitude about life). Keep being you and I will keep on reading! (Okay, who are we kidding? I will continue to read no matter what because I like killing a few minutes each day from doing real work!)
Also, if I did have kids, I would totallly be in the "bad" mommy group. How do I know this? Because I work with 70 teenage boys every day and I don't censor what I say to them (as long as keep it professional...for example...I admit my college drug days because I can use it as a teaching moment, I say suck, I say shit, and I say WTF when a situation warrants a F- bomb.) It keeps us real.
Love you girl!
And my sassy 6 year old - um yeah... she learns from the best!
For someone to tell you that your blog is not a place to vent really chaps my hide! Vent away T... vent away!
If you do decide to start a new club - let me know cause I want in!!
Have a great party tomorrow. :)
Experience has taught me -- because I was kicked out of a "good mom club" because I have a visible tattoo -- on my foot, not even on a truly naughty spot -- that the people who need to control what is seen and heard to that extent (which, to me can be sort of socially stunting, as kids grow up and see there a gazillion types of people in the world) aren't really worth stressing out about at all.
But I can't help tellin' them to suck it. Guess that makes me a bad mom. Oh well!
That woman sounds like a nutter and I feel exactly the same as you about it all.
Go Tressa!
I keep coming back because i think you're hilarious and a great writer. If people don't agree... Screw 'em! :p
LOVE YOUR BLOG!! Hope the B-day party goes well :)
I've been reading the posts about your camp trip and think the teepee is HILARIOUS, I can't wait to read how it all goes!
In that case, let's form a Bad Mommy blog group, huh? Then we can plaster our 'bad' badge all over our blogs, and there will be no questions. If someone finds a post 'offensive', oh well, they saw the badge! They should have known what was possible! ;-)
Girl..this is your blog and honestly....reading the sames things over can get kind of boring...so I LOVE ME some juicy-ness and that Wenche story...PURE JUICE I tell ya!!!
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When I was in architecture school in college I studied for a semester in Krakow, Poland. The food there was better than anything else I've ever had. Then after college I worked in New Zealand for a year. Traveled a few times in Europe but have never been to Norway...closest I got was Denmark! For some reason I always loved chocolate better from NZ and my friend mailed my favorite kind for a few years!!
GEEZ!!! So glad we're in the same club!!! LY!
I adore your blog & love to read everything. I've even gone back through your archives.
BEST of LUCK tomorrow w/ the crowd. Wish Dane a Happy Birthday again!
As for tomorrow, I bet Dane's party is going to ROCK!! Have fun and enjoy!
Personally, I think there are a lot of phony mommies out there. I like that you want to keep a healthy perspective.
JK! Screw the overly nice people. Those are the ones that will smile at you while stabbing u in the back, ya know!?