Its MY party..I'll cry if I want...
OK... so let me just vent here , so that i can smile afterwards & PRETEND that I am not irritated.
So I am having a party on Sat. It is a Birthday/Housewarming party.... I am kindda excited although I suffer from performance anxiety...(a whole nother post...)
I want to be like Martha... but I am not... however... I have planned & shopped & am almost ready for my party on Sat. I have the food planned, the drinks...yummy cosmos... I looked all over Sweden & Norway to find martini glasses... OK so you get my point? I know what I am doing...I planned, I am organized... I am almost ready to go....
So my darling hubby comes home tonight... & as we begin to discuss the party, he smiles & lets slip that "the food is all taken care of...."
"Ummm of course it is taken care of, we went shopping in Sweden last weekend & dropped about $500 bucks... on all sorts of yummy AMERICAN favorites, I was there, remember?"
"Just saying it is all taken care of...."
FUCK.... (I don't use this word in my blog often.. but today I feel like saying it OVER & OVER)
Bjørns little smile had my MOTHER IN LAW written ALL OVER IT.....
( Yummm...I don't like seafood..just saying..)
For about 13 years.... my mother in law has always tried to step in & take over...whether she is coming to the event party or not.... my wedding, the kids christenings..Bjørns surprise parties...
She always tries to push NORWEGIAN SANDWICHES ( a standard item at all family gatherings) on me anytime I have guests over.... No offence my Norwegian pals.... but when I entertain, I want to do my own cooking...with things I like..... I don't want my get togethers to look, smell & taste like my mother in laws... am i being BITCHY?...I am a little aren't I?...
Damn it... this time she won... because the friggen food is already ordered...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY... thanks...
Nothing like getting a big plate of sandwiches shoved down my throat .... So unless I feel like setting out enough food for 40 people...guess what goes on the back burner.....
ARRRGHHHHH!
Anyone have any ice breaker game suggestions???
We have several groups of friends..coming..not all of them know each other...so we were thinking an ice breaker (after MIL's norwegian sandiches) would be a good starter? ideas...PLEASE... Thanks
So I am having a party on Sat. It is a Birthday/Housewarming party.... I am kindda excited although I suffer from performance anxiety...(a whole nother post...)
I want to be like Martha... but I am not... however... I have planned & shopped & am almost ready for my party on Sat. I have the food planned, the drinks...yummy cosmos... I looked all over Sweden & Norway to find martini glasses... OK so you get my point? I know what I am doing...I planned, I am organized... I am almost ready to go....
So my darling hubby comes home tonight... & as we begin to discuss the party, he smiles & lets slip that "the food is all taken care of...."
"Ummm of course it is taken care of, we went shopping in Sweden last weekend & dropped about $500 bucks... on all sorts of yummy AMERICAN favorites, I was there, remember?"
"Just saying it is all taken care of...."
FUCK.... (I don't use this word in my blog often.. but today I feel like saying it OVER & OVER)
Bjørns little smile had my MOTHER IN LAW written ALL OVER IT.....
( Yummm...I don't like seafood..just saying..)For about 13 years.... my mother in law has always tried to step in & take over...whether she is coming to the event party or not.... my wedding, the kids christenings..Bjørns surprise parties...
She always tries to push NORWEGIAN SANDWICHES ( a standard item at all family gatherings) on me anytime I have guests over.... No offence my Norwegian pals.... but when I entertain, I want to do my own cooking...with things I like..... I don't want my get togethers to look, smell & taste like my mother in laws... am i being BITCHY?...I am a little aren't I?...
Damn it... this time she won... because the friggen food is already ordered...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY... thanks...
Nothing like getting a big plate of sandwiches shoved down my throat .... So unless I feel like setting out enough food for 40 people...guess what goes on the back burner.....
ARRRGHHHHH!
Anyone have any ice breaker game suggestions???
We have several groups of friends..coming..not all of them know each other...so we were thinking an ice breaker (after MIL's norwegian sandiches) would be a good starter? ideas...PLEASE... Thanks
Thanks Eudea-Mamia for the link to my YUMMY sandwiches (Smørbrød)
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(I'm so stinkin laughing! I Googled Norwegian Cuisine out of curiosity, and this is what I got, no bull...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuisine_of_Norway
Hugs my dear. Em
Scavenger hunts are fun. Ie. find a person who wears your shoe size. Find a person who enjoys the same style music or attended the same concert. Has skinny dipped. Danced in the rain with their spouse. Climbed a mountain. Bungee jumped, benn sky diving or scuba diving....Shares your views on "insert topic here".
You could either list 10 things and have a time limit or have more questions and allow it to go on all evening. Encourage each person to share one new thing they learned about another guest. Whom ever finds the most common threads gets a bottle of wine or another type of American treat.
There's a website called icebreakers.com, too.
So my MIL died a short 6 months after we were married. She knew she was dying so she triend to cram everything she knew about the Rocket Scientist down my throat. She meant well. She knew she would not be there later to explain if things didn't go well, but it came accross more like what a loser I was going to marry or had married, depending on the time.
She tried to plan our wedding and that is when I lost it. I am very passive, so it went like this. I didn't tell her anything till I had to. If there were going to be certain things happening I wouldn't tell her until she had to know to be there. That way, my stuff was my stuff and hers was hers. Now I look back and wish I'd had more time with her so that we could have worked through that issue. I am sure together we could have thrown some amazing parties.
I guess if I had any advice, it would be, in the future be very clear at the conception of a party or get together that is yours, be very clear about what you want and what you expect. That way, she will know and you will know that a line has been crossed if she chooses to do things her way anyway. Then on the flip side, when it is her turn, make sure you ask what she expects and what she wants so she know that it is hers to decide and you support her in it. That is how my mom does things and it has worked out really well.
You may find this advice to be crappy and I won't be offended if you do. There is a blog called http://askflo.blogspot.com/ that may be able to give you much more humorous advice.
Good luck and I'm sorry. (Hugs)
And have you ever played "Would you Rather?" - that's a great conversation started in a group of people!!!
Why do you want to go to prison?
Hum... that sucks!! Can you have both foods? What kind of yummy American food did you want?
I used to like my MIL when I lived 3,000+ miles from her... now with the kids I try to be good and when she visits... I drink LOTS of wine!
I am not a party planner, can't really help on ideas. SOunds like some others had some good ones though.
I hope youe party works out okay for you - and remember, it is YOUR day so you are totally allowed to be bitchy, drink, and order others around.
Take pics! :)
Tell her you already got everything. She should just come and enjoy. If that's won't fly, shove her food
in the corner and serve what you had planned. Nothing wrong with too much food. Everybody goes home with leftovers and thinks of you again the next day!
I can't stand my MIL and stay as far away as possible.
Even when it always ends up being stressful I love planning food for a party and also fixing it and I can't stand seafood so I feel for you.
Still try to enjoy YOUR party.
We have game called SHOOTERS which everybody likes to play ot what about Taboo or pictionary depending if everybody speaks the same language. Jenga when you are a little typsy.
Ice-breakers: usually alcohol in Norway and Sweden, right? ;-)
I was went to a woman's networking meeting and we got into pairs or small groups and had to interview each other with the questions our hostess had written: it was great fun and a good way to get to know each other. After about 10 mins, she blew a whistle and we had to move onto another person and start interviewing them instead... kind of like speed dating...
We had questions like:
What's your funniest memory? Most embarrassing?
What do you do? What do you like and hate about your work?
If you were Queen, what changes would you bring about?
etc.. etc...
Skål!
I have an annoying Mediterranean MIL who tried to control my life from 3000+ miles away so I feel your pain. It was not so bad until I gave her her only grandchildren. She reminds me constantly that I will never be as wonderful as she.
I might stick out one American dish since you are an American. :-)
Hope you have fun!
Can't wait to hear how it went.
How about the game where you put famous people's names on sticky notes and have each guest place a note on their forehead. Then, each person has to ask the other guests questions so they can guess who they are