My thoughts on..... RANDOM
Happy Monday everyone..... I thought I would try a Friday Fragment...um, on Monday... I have so many things on my mind... none of which deserve a post...(well one maybe)... so I thought I would get it all out there to start the week with a clean slate.... (my therapy if you will...)
weekend wrap up...
***Valentines Day...NADA... (in all fairness, Bjørn asked me if I wanted to to do something) I wanted to pop Midol & lay in the fetal position all day, instead.... we made a run for the border (Swedish) for a little cheap-er chicken & BOOZE...
EXCITING Sweden shopping news...(only expats will understand my excitement)... I found CAPTAIN CRUNCH granted it was $20 per box...WITHOUT crunch berries... COME ON PEOPLE, no crunch berries? who's zooming who?
Oh my honey did get me skis downhill & cross country... this week I promise to practice the cross country bit... Thank you honey....LOVE YOU.
****I am a Grown up..I know that I must really be a grown up now, honey asked me what I wanted for my birthday... "Nothing....oh, just finish my Honey DO list & I will be happy" - I think, he thinks its a trick but seriously I want for nothing...
EXCEPT...Secret Deodorant, Redken Shampoo, & Velveeta...(again, only expats will understand this) which I think my little sister is taken care of... thanks sis....
Oh ya, & hitting 100 followers... (now I am getting a bit pathetic aren't I?--- but I think you are allowed to beg for your birthday...Its in Bloggers rules...)
** My first love turned up on Face Book last week..... The Love Boat... Part deux... Ooooo... How WEIRD is it that NOTHING is left to the imagination? We can both see how the other is doing & what we have been up to for the last 13 years....is it even WEIRDER that Hubby & I talked about it? (I am thinking it is a good thing) I know that I am right where I am supposed to be...
***SERIOUS....
I kind of feel like this isn't my post to write...because it wasn't my friend... but it has affected us..
On Friday, my B I L's friend shot himself....I said something to Bjørn about it & of course Dane overheard me....
This was a a 25 year old KID... I don't get it.... I probably wouldn't be posting anything about it if my 9 year old wouldn't keep bringing it up... Of course it wasn't my intention for Dane to find out, but now that he knows...& wants to talk about it... What are the answers as to "WHY? WHY would he do that mom? "
I had forgotten that this guy sat & entertained all of the little ones at my sisters wedding... but Dane remembered... Dane remembers what a nice guy he was.... He played Hangman with Dane & let Dane cheat him out of about $5...(Dane was playing Hangman with Norwegian words...) He sat at our table at the reception.... & Dane spent a lot of the night talking to him.
What do you tell a child about suicide?
I tried my best to explain something for which I have no answers....
"He must have been in a very dark, sad place.... but he should have called someone...there is always a way out, even if he couldn't see it...." He had a lot of friends who loved him....
Dane told me this morning..."mom, I think he made a bad decision...." "ya honey, I think you are right..."
Thoughts? Advice on the subject?
weekend wrap up...
***Valentines Day...NADA... (in all fairness, Bjørn asked me if I wanted to to do something) I wanted to pop Midol & lay in the fetal position all day, instead.... we made a run for the border (Swedish) for a little cheap-er chicken & BOOZE...
EXCITING Sweden shopping news...(only expats will understand my excitement)... I found CAPTAIN CRUNCH granted it was $20 per box...WITHOUT crunch berries... COME ON PEOPLE, no crunch berries? who's zooming who?
Oh my honey did get me skis downhill & cross country... this week I promise to practice the cross country bit... Thank you honey....LOVE YOU.
****I am a Grown up..I know that I must really be a grown up now, honey asked me what I wanted for my birthday... "Nothing....oh, just finish my Honey DO list & I will be happy" - I think, he thinks its a trick but seriously I want for nothing...
EXCEPT...Secret Deodorant, Redken Shampoo, & Velveeta...(again, only expats will understand this) which I think my little sister is taken care of... thanks sis....
Oh ya, & hitting 100 followers... (now I am getting a bit pathetic aren't I?--- but I think you are allowed to beg for your birthday...Its in Bloggers rules...)
** My first love turned up on Face Book last week..... The Love Boat... Part deux... Ooooo... How WEIRD is it that NOTHING is left to the imagination? We can both see how the other is doing & what we have been up to for the last 13 years....is it even WEIRDER that Hubby & I talked about it? (I am thinking it is a good thing) I know that I am right where I am supposed to be...
***SERIOUS....
I kind of feel like this isn't my post to write...because it wasn't my friend... but it has affected us..
On Friday, my B I L's friend shot himself....I said something to Bjørn about it & of course Dane overheard me....
This was a a 25 year old KID... I don't get it.... I probably wouldn't be posting anything about it if my 9 year old wouldn't keep bringing it up... Of course it wasn't my intention for Dane to find out, but now that he knows...& wants to talk about it... What are the answers as to "WHY? WHY would he do that mom? "
I had forgotten that this guy sat & entertained all of the little ones at my sisters wedding... but Dane remembered... Dane remembers what a nice guy he was.... He played Hangman with Dane & let Dane cheat him out of about $5...(Dane was playing Hangman with Norwegian words...) He sat at our table at the reception.... & Dane spent a lot of the night talking to him.
What do you tell a child about suicide?
I tried my best to explain something for which I have no answers....
"He must have been in a very dark, sad place.... but he should have called someone...there is always a way out, even if he couldn't see it...." He had a lot of friends who loved him....
Dane told me this morning..."mom, I think he made a bad decision...." "ya honey, I think you are right..."
Thoughts? Advice on the subject?
Comments
I had two friends commit suicide this summer. Heartbreaking. We just tried to impress on the girls that there was no dark place they could ever go that we wouldn't be willing to do everything possible to get them out. They are just too important to us. But I've never seen that dark of a place, so I don't know if these people were able to see any way out. Both had kids. That was the crushing blow.
I think you handled things well with Dane. That's a tough subject even for adults! It's good ya'll talked about it.
i don't have advice, but i do know that you can't go wrong. there's no delicate way really to put it- you know your child best and what he can handle. i am sure you, being a great mom from what i can tell- will say what's right!
20 dollars for cap'n crunch?! no crunch berries?! wha-wha-what?!
I'm so sorry about your BIL's friend. Those things hit home no matter if you knew the person or not. i'm very sorry.
Oh and for your birthday present I will follow you. *g*
On another note, do you need an American connection for sugary cereals? I had no idea you were Cap'n Crunch deprived!
I think you said exactly the right thing. I think I would explain a little more about hope and help. It is out there.
He said a very mature thing. I think he got it.
That weird search page says it is looking for http:// www. cre8buzz. com/ profiles/ 3036.widget.
Not sure if everyone is experience this or just me. I wanted to give you a heads up. I would just send you an email but have no address. :(
sometimes we need low key holidays, I think. and it sounds like you had one! yay for crunch berries but $20 a box? yikes!
just stopping by from sits.
Good thing for sisters that are good at sending the essentials!! :)
I have no advice about the other, although i do think you handled it well. **hugs**